Judy Okeyo’s Journey

Judy Okeyo’s Journey of Courage and Resilience Against GBV
Gender-Based Violence (GBV) remains a persistent and insidious issue, affecting countless lives across the globe. For Judy Okeyo, a peer counselor and survivor, her journey from silence to empowerment sheds light on the importance of breaking the stigma around GBV and creating safe spaces for survivors to speak out.
Judy recalls how she fell victim to psychological and sexual violence at the hands of someone she trusted—her boyfriend. What started as a visit to his home turned into a nightmare. Trapped, threatened with a knife, and stripped of her autonomy, Judy endured unspeakable trauma. Her cries for help were silenced by fear, and her attempts to resist were met with further violence.
The Cycle of Abuse
Judy’s story reflects a common pattern in GBV cases. Perpetrators often manipulate their victims emotionally, exploiting love and attachment to maintain control. “Violence doesn’t always start with a slap or a punch,” Judy says. “It begins with emotional manipulation, gaslighting, and creating a sense of dependence.”
In her case, this manipulation took the form of psychological abuse. Judy’s boyfriend would invalidate her feelings, accuse her of wrongdoing, and demean her in private and public. Despite these red flags, Judy, like many survivors, struggled to leave. “I kept asking myself: ‘If I leave, who will love me? How will I start over?’ That fear kept me trapped,” she explains.
Breaking the Silence
Judy’s turning point came when she realized the cost of her silence. The stigma surrounding GBV often discourages survivors from seeking help. Judy was repeatedly asked why she would accuse someone she was in a relationship with of assault. Yet, she stood firm in her conviction: “Forced sex is assault, no matter the relationship.”
Her courage to speak out is now inspiring others. Judy emphasizes the importance of having conversations about GBV, particularly in schools and communities. “Silence is the same as supporting violence,” she asserts.
The Role of Education and Campaigns
Judy believes education is key to preventing GBV. By introducing conversations about healthy relationships and recognizing abuse into schools, young people can be empowered to identify and avoid toxic situations. Campaigns like those led by NGAAF provide a platform for survivors to share their stories and encourage others to speak out.
Judy’s message to survivors is simple yet powerful: “Do not despair. Your story matters. Speak up, make your issues known, and seek help.”
A Call to Action
As Judy’s story illustrates, GBV doesn’t just impact individuals—it reverberates through families and communities. Breaking the cycle of abuse requires a collective effort. Governments must strengthen legal frameworks, communities must support survivors, and individuals must have the courage to speak up.
To those still trapped in silence, Judy offers hope: “You are not alone. There is strength in seeking help, and there is power in your voice.”